Looking for the perfect Christmas gift ideas for your husband? While you can’t go wrong with gifts like gloves, golf balls, ties and tickets to see his favorite band, there are certain gifts that your husband needs that you can’t find in a store. This Christmas, don’t just wrap a few nice gifts under the tree and call it a day. Give your husband what he really needs, but may not think to ask for–these four Christmas gifts your husband desperately needs.
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As a mom, especially if you are a mom of small children, you probably have a LOT of things on your plate. The house needs cleaned, the kids need bathed and fed, the dog needs let out, you need to run to the store for more cereal because the baby dumped it all over the floor (again!) … the list goes on and on.
In the midst of all the chaos, it can be very easy to let your spouse fend for himself. After all, he’s a grown man who can make his own sandwich. He’s just going to have to wait. The problem with this, however, is that it is all too easy to fall into a cycle where your husband is always perpetually last on your priority list. Where you say you’ll “get around to it,” but you never seem to find the time.
Have you been guilty of neglecting your spouse lately? If so, here are a few posts that can help: Three Ways to Put Your Spouse First and 10 Ways to Find Time for Romance When Your Kids are Little.
Have you ever noticed how TV dads on sitcoms are always portrayed as bumbling idiots? Think of shows like The Simpsons, Modern Family, Everybody Loves Raymond, Malcom in the Middle, Home Improvement… and the vast majority of commercials for baby or parenting products. These shows make it pretty clear that if you want something done right–you leave it up to the mom. What do dads know anyways?
While these shows may take things to the extreme, they probably aren’t as far off as you’d expect. Have you ever overruled your husband on a parenting decision? Done something yourself just because you knew he wouldn’t do it right? Nagged him about a task because you knew he would forget if you didn’t remind him? Spoken poorly about your husband to your girlfriends or–even worse–teased or ridiculed him in public? If so, you’re just as guilty.
Men are created to NEED respect. And yet, all too often they find a complete lack of it at home, whether we realize it or not.
Have you been disrespectful lately–whether intentionally or unintentionally? Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs is THE book on respecting your husband. It will really open your eyes on some things that just don’t always come as naturally to women! Definitely pick it up if you haven’t already!
The kids are in bed, the dishes are done, and your husband has that look in his eye. How do you respond?
a. Find something else to busy yourself with so he’ll leave you alone?
b. Think, “Eh, I guess that would be okay. I’m not doing much else anyways and it probably won’t take too long…” OR
c. Smile your own mischievous little smile and race toward the bed, tossing items of clothing here and there on the way.
Women love to tease men about how much they want sex, but the truth is: God made them that way! Your husband wants you and finds you desirable. That’s awesome! But that’s not enough. He needs you to find him desirable (and act like it!) too.
Need a little help in this area? (And honestly–don’t we all?) Then be sure to check out this awesome post from To Love, Honor and Vacuum: Top 10 Tips For Initiating Sex with Your Husband (and the entire rest of her blog as well!)
When is the last time you gave your husband a heartfelt “Thank you!” Has it been a while? Whether your husband is skilled at relaxing (trying to find a nice way to put it!) or he bends over backwards to help you out anytime he can, you need to be thanking him regularly.
Did your husband go to work today? Did he call to check in? Did he spend some time with the kids? Did he choose to come home instead of going out with his friends all night? Has he always been faithful to you? Did he tell you how beautiful you look, even though you were covered in baby spit-up and still in your pajamas at 5 pm? Then you need to tell him “thank you.”
(And if he didn’t, then think of something he DID do. I don’t care if you have the laziest, meanest husband in the world. You can think of something nice to say if you try hard enough.)
Sure, you could get by without doing these four things–for a while. But if you want a truly happy and fulfilling marriage, and if you love your husband and desire to be a good wife, then these are four things that you MUST be doing regularly (or at the very least–trying your very hardest to do). No ifs, ands or buts about it!
So how do you stack up against this list? Have you been doing a great job of taking care of your husband, or are there a few things you need to work on?
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