Want to learn the fine art of humility and serving others before yourself? Become a mom.
My kids are really great kids, and yet it’s not at all uncommon for me to get everyone else at least 2-3 rounds of breakfast or lunch before I get anything myself (if I get anything at all).
Of course, that’s just how it goes as mothers, isn’t it?
We’re experts at putting other peoples’ needs before our own. Making sure our children have new, perfectly matched outfits for school while we throw on the same old ratty sweats we really should have pitched quite a while ago… Making sure everyone is taken care of, happy, healthy, provided for… while we’re more than happy to go without.
And yet, is it possible that, as mothers, we take this too far? That we get so accustomed to taking care of others that we nearly forget to take care of ourselves a little bit too?
As far as I can tell, it’s pretty common.
But there’s something you need to know:
Moms, You Matter Too.
Your dreams, hopes, wishes and desires? They matter.
Your health, happiness and well-being? They matter.
Your hobbies and ambitions? They matter.
And not only that, but you actually do yourself and your family a disservice when you pretend that they don’t.
After all, you can’t teach your children to think about others when you spend all day thinking about them. They need to learn patience and to think of others before themselves as well – just as much as you do.
And you know what else?
Your husband needs some time to bond with the kids without you around, hovering.
Your children need some time to learn to do things on their own, without you always swooping in to help. They need to learn to deal with frustration and not always getting what they want, and to be okay with that.
And you need to take care of yourself so that you have the strength and energy to do the million small tasks that you do every day. You know, those little tasks that nobody notices except you. But you still do them faithfully. Because you care. Because you’re the mom.
And that’s great! Do them! Just don’t neglect yourself in the process.
It really is okay to take a break every once in a while. To rest. To relax. To do something you want to do just because you enjoy doing it.
Your kids will be just fine. In fact, they’ll probably be better off for it. Really.
Moms, do you ever get so busy taking care of others you forget to care for yourself too?