10 Simple Ways You Can Help Your Small Church Pastor Thrive

🌺  Written by Amanda Whittington

Small church pastors are a special breed. They work hard but might only be paid part-time.

Perhaps they work another part-time or even full-time job so they can provide for their family alongside of leading the church.

They’re doing their best to help everyone spiritually, but they might need a little extra help themselves.

Your small church pastor may seem extra busy, harried, and tired, but you can help!


1. Buy Them a Meal

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Pastors often meet with parishioners over coffee or even a full meal.

It might seem like they’re just being social, but they are probably being an emotional support, counselor, or spiritual guide while they eat. And while they probably enjoy the occasion, it can get expensive if they frequently eat out with parishioners.

You can help by paying for their meal or even giving them a gift card to help cover the costs. They’ll appreciate the thoughtful gift and feel encouraged, too.


2. Do Their Yard Work

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Busy pastors have yard work, too. And it can be hard to squeeze in mowing or weed whacking between daily office hours and evening meetings.

Having a neatly trimmed yard feels so good, but having out-of-control grass and gardens can feel stressful and burdensome. If you have the time and equipment, mowing the yard or weeding the flowerbeds is a tremendous gift.

If you can’t do it yourself, you might work with the youth group to organize a time for them to help. It’s a great service project for teens and helps them learn life skills, as well. Just make sure their parents are all on board.


3. Offer to Help with the Kids

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Pastors with young kids probably feel pretty drained at times, especially if they have to balance child care with church events.

If you are good with children, you can really give them a hand by offering to babysit.

Depending on the situation, you could offer to play with the kids in the church nursery during board meetings or entertain them in the gym.

On the other hand, if you have a close relationship with your pastor, you might even offer to babysit at their home so their parents can get a night out together.

You can invest in your pastor by supporting their marriage, but you can also invest in their family by getting to know their kids.


4. Take Over a Church Task

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In a small church, anything that doesn’t get done seems to fall on the pastor.

As a child, I used to help my dad copy bulletins on the mimeograph. Then we would gather around the dining room table and fold and stuff. Although it was good family time together, it was also ‘one more thing’ that my small church dad had to worry about.

There are all kinds of church tasks that might need an organizer or point person, from plunging toilets to folding bulletins. Find out which tasks are the most draining for your small church pastor and take them off their plate (or find someone who will).


5. Reduce Church Conflicts

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Nothing is more stressful for a pastor than conflicts in the church. Put in a little effort to help reduce the disputes. Maybe it is fighting over the budget, arguing over the color of the new church carpet, or debating over whether or not to replace the toys in the nursery.

Conflict is normal, but it can weigh heavily on the pastor. Read a few books on resolving conflict and step in to help everyone get along. Be sure you aren’t a part of the problem with some sincere self-reflection.

Reducing conflict can relieve some stress on your already laden-down pastor.


6. Assist with Church or Home Maintenance

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Homes and churches are always in need of repair. Whether it’s something minor, like a ripped window screen, or a more significant issue, like a hot water heater that’s only so-so, you can always lend a hand.

Of course, you’ll want to ask first, but you can really support your pastor by offering to fix things that are broken. If you are very skilled, you could make the repairs yourself, but if not, you might offer to hire someone (and pay for it).

On the other hand, churches need maintenance, too, and scheduling often ends up falling into the hands of the small church pastor. If this is true in your church, you might offer to be the point person.

You can help your pastor by scheduling the service and being present when the work is being completed.


7. Become a Lay Minister

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Another way to support your small church pastor is to become a lay minister. You don’t have to go to seminary, but you might consider getting a certificate or attending a conference to learn the basics of lay pastoring.

The scope of a lay minister is different in every denomination, but you may be able to visit the sick, help with the sacraments, lead worship, and even preach. It can benefit the pastor to have another minister on board, even if they aren’t an officially ordained pastor.


8. Hire a Cleaning Service

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After a long day, the pastor probably still has to go home and clean the house, do the dishes, and do other types of cleaning.

If they are open to the idea, you might offer to send in a cleaning service to take something off their plate. This could be a one-time deep clean (who doesn’t love a good spring cleaning?) or a monthly or weekly service.

Make sure they know this isn’t because you think they’re a poor housekeeper but an actual gift to give them support.


9. Be a Real Friend

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It can be challenging for a pastor to make real friends.

Some people just want to befriend the pastor because it makes them feel important. Others do it to ‘keep tabs’ on the clergy. Still others just want to be a part of the ‘in-crowd.’

If you really want to support your pastor, just be a real friend. That means giving into the relationship, keeping strict confidentiality, and refraining from judgment. It helps if you have things in common, like a love for tennis or similarly-aged children.

Remember that pastors aren’t super-humans. They are real people with real needs for connection and friendship. Pastoring can feel lonely at times, even when you are surrounded by church people. Having a true friend who doesn’t have a personal agenda is a huge blessing.


10. Ask!

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If you genuinely want to help and support your small church pastor, just ask! Ask them what they need help with. Ask them what would make their lives easier.

Find out what foods they like, their hobbies, and how they want to spend their free time. And then help them get to it!

Finding ways to support your pastor can be challenging, but helping your pastor is a way of helping your entire church. Freeing them from stress and busyness frees them to be even better pastors. And that is priceless.


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Brittany Ann is an ECPA bestselling author of “Fall in Love with God’s Word” and “Follow God’s Will” and the founder of EquippingGodlyWomen.com, a popular Christian-living website dedicated to helping busy Christian moms find practical ways to go "all in" in faith and family. Her work has been featured on CBN, The Christian Post, Crosswalk, and more.

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