Behind Closed Doors: 9 False Beliefs About Being a “Good” Christian

🌺  Written by Autumn Bain-Patel

Do you think of being a “good” Christian as a positive or a negative?

Christianity often emphasizes the pursuit of perfection and moral purity, but the problem with perfection is that it traps people in a never-ending cycle of trying to be something that they aren’t. If that means having to be nice and polite all the time, then even the best of us are doomed to fail.

If you want to know what happens when people stop being polite and start getting real, you’ll want to check out these 9 false beliefs about being a “good” Christian.


1. Good Christians Must Have All the Answers

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A popular false belief is that Christians have their lives perfectly sorted out. For example, many people believe good Christians should have perfect relationships free from conflicts and difficulty. In the real world, all individuals struggle to meet the requirements of maintaining healthy relationships.

The truth is that good Christians don’t have all the answers and may not have a clear sense of direction or purpose in all areas of their lives. However, they can admit that uncertainty which then creates space for spiritual growth.


2. Good Christians Never Doubt

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Another popular false belief is that good Christians are models of doubt-free faith. The truth is, Christians can and do struggle with their faith. Yet, doubt and questioning can lead to deeper understanding.

Contending with tough issues, asking the hard questions, and seeking truth is an essential part of developing a more resilient faith. Embracing these struggles can ultimately lead to a spiritual maturity that will be beneficial to everyone seeking a deeper level of belief.


3. Good Christians Don’t Sin

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The next false belief is that good Christians lead lives of sinless perfection. However, this expectation ignores the reality of human fallibility. Furthermore, this particular false belief can lead to feelings of shame and inadequacy when someone inevitably stumbles along the way.

The truth is that each one of us, at some point, falls short of the expectations placed upon us. Acknowledging imperfections is a vital aspect of development and healing for everyone. Taking this a step further, a developing Christian will come to understand that God’s grace is more than sufficient to cover our sins and transform our lives.


4. Good Christians Follow a Checklist of Rules

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Many people see Christianity as a rule-following religion. This encourages the false belief that a good Christian must adhere to a strict checklist of rules and regulations.

An extension of this false belief is that if one does not adhere to this checklist, then divine retribution is sure to follow.

The truth is that while guidelines and principles found in the Bible provide valuable guidance for ethical living, they are meant to facilitate a deeper connection with God. This perspective shifts the focus from a rigid adherence to a list of do’s and don’ts, to a posture of openness to God’s leading in every aspect of life.


5. Good Christians Always Feel Close to God

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It is a common false belief that a good Christian always feels close to God and is able to maintain a near constant spiritual high. Periods of spiritual dryness are falsely believed to be indicative of failure or lack of faith.

In reality, faith is characterized by seasons of both closeness and distance from God. Rather than viewing it as spiritual regression, acknowledging the ebb and flow of spiritual experiences presents the opportunity to deepen trust and develop perseverance.


6. Good Christians Must Attend Church Every Sunday

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A false belief held by many is that good Christians must attend church every Sunday without fail. The emphasis on mandatory church attendance creates an obligation that will eventually breed resistance and possibly resentment.

While regular fellowship and worship are important, Christian community extends beyond Sunday services. This understanding opens the door to a richer and more authentic experience of fellowship. Gathering with fellow believers for worship is valuable and biblical but prioritizing genuine connection and active participation are far more important.


7. Good Christians Don’t Struggle with Mental Health

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There’s a false belief that good Christians shouldn’t struggle with mental health issues. Unfortunately, no one, not even Christians, are immune from mental health stigma.

There are people outside as well as inside the church that view mental health struggles as a sign of weakness or spiritual deficiency. However, mental health challenges affect Christians just like everyone else and addressing them requires compassion, support, and understanding.

By creating safe spaces for open dialogue and providing resources for mental health education and support, truly welcoming and inclusive communities are created where all individuals are valued and supported.


8. Good Christians Must Always be Positive

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A similar false belief is that Christians should always maintain a positive outlook and never express negative emotions. Just like many other people, Christians are not encouraged to show their struggles, doubts, and pains within their community.

The truth is, it’s okay to acknowledge and process difficult feelings, including sadness, anger, fear, and doubt. Suppressing or denying difficult emotions does not align with the biblical call to honesty.

In truth, when Christians feel free to share their joys and sorrows, their victories and struggles, they create a space where others can do the same without fear of judgment or condemnation.

All individuals can find comfort and solidarity in knowing that they are not alone in their experiences.


9. Good Christians Never Feel Angry with God

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Finally, there is a false belief that a good Christian should never feel anger or frustration towards God. Divine discontent is viewed as a sin that should be suppressed or ignored lest one be separated from God’s love and good grace.

In actuality, as people seek to reconcile their emotions with their beliefs they often encounter God in new and transformative ways.

Throughout Scripture, we see many examples of individuals expressing their raw emotions with God in times of distress, including Jesus himself.

We can all be encouraged by their honesty and authenticity as it serves as a testament to the depth and complexity of the human-divine relationship.


10 Bible Verses About Trusting God in Difficult Times

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When you’re going through trials and suffering, Scripture verses about trusting God in difficult times can be such a comfort. The Bible’s whole narrative is about humanity’s journey in trusting their Creator.

Meditate on and pray through these verses about trusting God in difficult times when you need a reminder about the big picture: God’s story, what He’s doing in the world, His boundless grace and mercy, and how much you matter to Him.

10 Bible Verses About Trusting God in Difficult Times


Why Doesn’t God Answer My Prayers? (6 Biblical Reasons)

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Do you feel angry, hurt, disappointed, or confused because God hasn’t answered your prayers the way you want Him to? There may be a very good reason why He hasn’t.

Be sure to check out this article on 6 Biblical Reasons God Doesn’t Answer Our Prayers.

Autumn Bain-Patel
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