Guest Post by Misty of Joy in the Journey
As I left for a recent blogging trip my husband asked me to please watch my lead foot. He then asked me to keep it no more than 4 mph over the speed limit. I laughed him off and headed on my way.
Shortly after leaving I was put to the test. My lead foot wanted to push the limit and get to my destination quickly. However, my heart reminded me of my husband’s request.
I wrestled back and forth for awhile.
He’s not here, he won’t even know.
He asked you to drive slower because he loves you.
Yea, but what he doesn’t know won’t hurt him.
Then a still voice whispered, “Just because he doesn’t see it doesn’t make it any less wrong.”
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Submission is important.
I asked myself after that, how if I can’t submit to my husband whom I see and love every day, how can I submit to God?
I pulled over to the side of the road and prayed. For me submission is not easy. I come from a long line of independent women. My mother reminds me regularly that I am far too dependent on my husband. My grandmother has told me to never obey a man, and over and over again growing up I heard the words, “What he don’t know, won’t hurt him”.
There is no wonder why I struggle with submission. Yet, submission is important.
Our husbands are with us, day in day out. They love us provide for us, and guide our homes. Yet, how often do we balk at submission? Think it’s outdated? Unimportant?
But, it’s not.
God is not with us, yet we are to obey His word. If we can’t do that with our husbands who are here on earth with us, how can we submit to God’s will?
The Bible tells us in Ephesians 5:22 to “Submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord.”
It then says again in Colossians 3:18, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fitting in the Lord.”
So, I ask you now, if we can’t submit to our husbands how can we submit to God?
The world will tell us that submission is not necessary, that obeying our husbands or following their lead leaves us weak and dependent. But the Bible says,
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.~Romans 12:2
And what is the will of God? That we submit ourselves to our husbands. The world may not understand submission, but we are not to be conformed to this world.
Ladies, I know this is not an easy topic. Submission is an area where we want to balk, and not always follow. But, let me tell you, submission is important.
That trip for me was a test. There is no doubt about it. It was a test for our marriage. And, this time I passed.
There will be other tests I’m sure. Times when I want to mouth, times when I want to “mother” and times when I want to use a condescending tone. Some of these I may pass, some I may fail.
The same can be said for living a Christ filled life. There will be times when we are tempted, and struggle with following the will of God. Some of these tests we will pass, some we will fail. Sometimes we will submit to God’s will, sometimes we will foolishly try to follow our own path.
Submission is not easy; it is an area where many of us will struggle. Yet, submission is important.
I look at my daughters who will one day be mothers and wives. I am reminded of the verse in Titus 2:4 that says, “That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children.”
I want to teach my daughters that submission is not a bad word. I want them to grow up and love their husbands. I want them to teach my grandchildren the word of God. I want them to live a Godly life. This starts in MY home, and their views of marriage starts with MY marriage, their views of submitting to God starts with how I live my life.
Submission is important.
Do you ever struggle to submit to your husband? What do you do when the temptation hits?
Misty Bailey is a Christian wife and work-at-home homeschool mom. She resides with her family in Southern Ohio. She shares her struggles with time management, becoming unglued, homeschooling and finding joy in the everyday moments on her blog Joy in the Journey. You can also find her on Facebook and Pinterest.