It’s no surprise that many faithful churchgoers are not as faithful anymore – with online options and personal preferences available, many people just don’t see the point of Sunday morning church services.
Whether they’ve chosen to walk away from the faith altogether or they’ve simply opted out of church services for the time being, here are 12 reasons why many former church attendees don’t want to go to church anymore.
1. There Are Too Many Judgmental People
Unfortunately, Christianity is known for its abundance of judgmental Christians. Yes, there are many, many wonderful, kind, and loving Christians. But there are plenty of not-so-kind ones too.
For glittersparklythings, her child-free status was a problem: “I have been criticized by churches for not wanting kids and how I’m failing God. Well, considering can’t have kids (which is none of their business), I don’t think I’m failing him.”
2. They Were Hurt at the Church
Unfortunately, church hurt is a very real issue that way too many Christians and former Christians have had to endure.
The_Archer2121 had a similar experience: “It’s not a welcoming environment for anyone who is different. Too emotionally painful.”
3. The Service Is Too Loud
Many former church members reported that they didn’t appreciate how loud and showy the sermons at their local churches can be these days.
PaxosOuranos shared, “Right there with you. My church got rid of its ‘traditional’ services and the remaining ones are far too loud for me. After having to take a walk during multiple songs, I decided it was best to just worship at home.”
4. There Were Too Many False Teachings
Unfortunately, while some churches still hold a commitment to finding and teaching the Truth, others seem to have gotten distracted from their original purpose.
Iwanttobeacavediver shared, “For me I stopped going to church for the longest time because the sermons were turning into bad self-help seminars with the words God/Jesus occasionally sprinkled in, there was fighting between the two pastors which caused way too much drama, and I generally got burnt out on all the things I was ‘supposed to be’ doing.”
5. The Church Split
Not only are church splits incredibly painful for those involved, but they can easily lead to some walking out of church altogether.
This was the case for lama579, who shared, “The church split in half over people not treating people like they should. Lots of my friends and mentors left. It made me very sad. My parents even started going to a different church. I kept going for a year or two but I was always really really sad when I was in the building. That split is far and away the worst thing that has ever happened to me in my life. I’m still a Christian, pray daily, and still regularly spend time with folks from that church, but going back to service makes me depressed. I wish it wasn’t like that.”
6. Their Schedule Is Too Busy
It seems like people are busier than ever these days! Unfortunately, this can mean regular church attendance takes a back seat to other, more pressing, matters. Some people, like tinanyams, try to make it to online church. Others have stopped going altogether.
This online commenter shared, “Does going to church online count as going to church? If it doesn’t count, my answer is that work has been hectic. So I attend church online more frequently than I actually used to do in person though when I’m not working I do go to physical/in-person church.”
7. They Stopped Attending During the Pandemic
Multiple people mentioned the recent pandemic as a reason they hadn’t been back to church in awhile, whether this was due to ongoing health concerns or simply a change in routine.
For example, highdistinction85 shared, “Covid forced us to stay indoors at first, and ever since then, I haven’t been going to church much.”
8. The Church Focused On Religion Over Relationship
While Christianity is a religion, most Christians agree that the church should focus on building a good relationship with God and honors, not simply following the rules or measuring up to an impossible standard.
As Spiritual-Bee-2319 shared, “I feel like at church I have to focus on human beliefs, norms, etc. I just want a place to connect with God. When I realized I could do that anywhere anytime, I stopped going. Now I’m more connected to God than ever. He really knows me.”
9. The Church Became Too Focused on Money
Yes, churches need money to pay their staff, maintain their buildings, and give generously to local and overseas missionaries, but there comes a point when too much emphasis on money and giving simply isn’t necessary or healthy. This is especially problematic if church members are treated or perceived differently due to their differences in giving.
Big-Prize4341 shared this experience: “A pastor or members will just like or entertain you a lot if you are a giver, rich, or you are a person who has a good status.”
10. They Have Social Anxiety
Anxiety is an incredibly common mental health condition, affecting a significant minority of the population, so it only makes sense that this incredibly common experience would prevent some from regularly attending and enjoying time at church.
User norwegiaNHusbandry shared, “I have young children and for some reason, I have anxiety about them misbehaving in children’s church. That’s a weird fear to have right?”
11. They Prefer Online Worship Services
While some people still consider online services “going” to church, others are not so sure. In fact, many people would say that watching online is no different than watching a movie or TV.
The reality is that many families feel more comfortable watching church from home, even if that means missing out on fellowship with other Christians.
12. The Church Doesn’t Provide for Their Children
If you have a large family, it can feel like a burden to bring your children to church every Sunday knowing they make up a majority of the group.
On the other hand, if you aren’t comfortable with the children’s programs at your local church, you won’t want to bring your children. And everyone knows they would be too loud during the sermon.
Many families face this dilemma each week and have just decided to stay away from church altogether.
Is Going to Church Really Necessary?
While there are many very legitimate reasons to avoid church, either temporarily or permanently, does this mean it’s totally fine to just walk out the door and never come back?
What about Hebrews 10:24-25, which tells us, “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”
Find out what the Bible says on the matter here: Is Going to Church Really Necessary?
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Brittany Ann is an ECPA bestselling author and founder of Equipping Godly Women and Monetize My Ministry. She’s also a Christian speaker, podcaster, and conference host. Her work has been featured on numerous TV, radio, and online ministries, including CBN, MSN, Christianity Today, Evangelical Alliance, Patheos, Crosswalk, and more.
