Need More Christian Friends? Here are 6 Ways to Find Them

🌺  Written by Brittany Ann

Need More Christian Friends? Here are 6 Ways to Find Them There’s a quote that’s been stuck, rolling around inside of my head, ever since I first heard it. 

It’s by motivational speaker Jim Rohn and it says, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

Of course, that’s what the Bible has been saying for years.

In verses like Proverbs 13:20, which states “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm” and 1 Corinthians 15:33, which states “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.'”


So let me ask you: Who are the five people you spend the most time with? And furthermore, what are they like? (seriously, take a minute. list them out.)


  • Are they strong Christians, completely devoted to following God no matter the cost? Or are they pretty lukewarm and lackadaisical in their faith, if they believe at all?
  • Do they have strong, Godly marriages and encourage you to do the same? Or are they generally disrespectful, discontent, and selfish?
  • How do they raise their children? Are they kind, loving parents who work hard to raise their children in the faith? Or do they teach and allow things that you wouldn’t want your children to be around?


Now please understand — I totally get that no one is perfect. We all have room for improvement and you definitely don’t need to go ditch all of your friends just because they aren’t “up to your standards.” You definitely need Christian friends AND non-Christian friends in your life.

BUT – just thinking of the people you spend the most time with. What are they like? And how are they influencing you to be the same?


Choosing Friends on Purpose


So, a few years ago, when I first heard this quote, I stopped to evaluate: Who were the people I spent the most time around? What did we like to do together?

Thankfully, I was pleased to find that all of my friends were pretty awesome. They are strong, smart Christian women who love God and love their families and seek to better themselves every day.

The problem for me was that I simply didn’t have enough of them. And I didn’t see them nearly often enough. So I set out to change that.


If you’re surrounded by people who constantly bring you down, I’d definitely recommend this article:

How to Deal With Toxic Family Members Biblically


Otherwise, read on for 6 ways to find more Christian friends!


6 Ways to Find More Godly Friends


1. Go Where the People Are


This first suggestion may seem obvious, but unfortunately it’s also widely overlooked: If you want to make more friends – you have to go where people are.

Sure, it may be easier and less intimidating to just stay home when you don’t know where to go or what to do, or to go to the same old places you’ve always gone, but there are SO many options you can explore!

For example, you could go to:

  • Church
  • A Bible study
  • The park
  • The library
  • A book club
  • The gym
  • A mommy and me class
  • Sports practice with your kids
  • Farmers markets
  • A full or part-time job
  • A MOPS group
  • A local coffee shop
  • A neighborhood get-together
  • An outreach event at a different church
  • Free community events in your area


One doesn’t work out? No problem. There are plenty more where that came from. Just go right on down the list until you find something that clicks.

Don’t know where to find these things in your area? Google it. Seriously. You never know what you will find until you look.


* Tried to make friends at church but your church is full of cliques? Go here: How to Make Friends When Your Church is Full of Cliques 


2. Get Involved


Of course, simply going to these places isn’t enough (unfortunately). You also have to get involved and get to know people. And the BEST way I’ve found to get involved and start getting to know people is simply to sign up or volunteer for things.

For example, you could:

  • Join a team or committee at church (ask around to see what opportunities are available)
  • Volunteer to help with special church outreach initiatives, like collecting coats, backpacks or school supplies, or by stuffing shoe boxes for Operation Christmas Child.
  • Volunteer in your child’s classroom, join the PTA, or volunteer in some other capacity at your child’s school (schools can always use volunteers!)
  • Join a group at the library or take your little ones to story time at the same time each week
  • Join a class at the gym instead of working out by yourself
  • Volunteer at the hospital or a nursing home in your area
  • Google “Volunteer opportunities + your city” (if you live in a good sized city, you should find a bunch!)


Volunteering is a great way to make a real difference in your community AND also meet some really awesome people!


3. Reach Out


Once you start to meet more people and you find a few you think would make awesome friends, it’s time to reach out and get intentional. Thankfully, this really doesn’t have to be as scary as it seems. If you’ve chosen some great people, then they’re probably super nice and would love to be friends with you.

Here’s how to make that happen:

  • Find a good reason to get their phone number or email address. For example, maybe you take some awesome pictures of your volunteer activity and you offer to forward them to your friend. Most people won’t find this weird if you’ve already started building a friendship or if you have a good reason.
  • If you aren’t brave enough to ask for a phone number, try to find them on Facebook at least. Most people have SO many friends on Facebook these days, they really won’t mind having one more. And this gives you a very laid-back way to get to know them more and chat on occasion.
  • Invite them to do something fun. Maybe there’s a new movie coming out or a new canvas painting place you’ve been dying to try. Ask if they’d like to come too. Chances are, they’d be flattered.
  • Get the kids together for a play date. Do you both have kids about the same age? Get them together for a play date and enjoy some quality mom time too.


And don’t worry if you have to invite people a couple of times before they take you up on your offer. People are busy! It may not be because they don’t want to hang out with you. They may simply not have the time or the money right then, or they may not be interested in that particular activity.

Simply try again later with a different activity. And if they still aren’t interested – no big deal. There are PLENTY of people out there. This friend simply wasn’t the right choice for you.


4. Meet Friends of Friends


Still don’t know anyone? Why not ask your current friends to help you expand your horizons? Chances are they know some people and would happy to introduce or include you. You could even arrange some kind of fun event where lots of women can bring their friends and all get to know each other.

For example:

  • A park or zoo trip
  • A toy/clothing swap
  • A book club or Bible study
  • A big freezer cooking day
  • Birthday, graduation or holiday parties
  • A Norwex, Young Living, Lularoe or Osborne books party (Anyone selling things like these would LOVE to help you throw a party because it’s a win-win. More income for them — more potential friends for you!)


5. Find Community Online


While nothing beats having real life friends you can get together with anytime, thanks to the Internet, people all over the world are more accessible than ever before. Sure, you may not be able to have them over physically, but with online video chat, it’s a pretty close second.

Plus, it’s a lot easier to find people with the same interests or struggles as you. For example, you might want to seek out other women who love essential oils, who have kids the same ages as yours, who struggle with depression, who are dealing with the loss of a child, who love running, who love baking… or anything else you can think of! The options are endless!

Here are a few places you can look:


Join the email community

And don’t forget to join the Equipping Godly Women community if you haven’t already!


6. Connect with Old Friends


Of course, while making new friends is always awesome, sometimes the answer is as simple as connecting with people you already know.

Do you have any friends from grade school, high school or college that you’ve lost touch with? What about friends from a past job, volunteer experience or interest-based group?

Oftentimes you can find people through a simple Facebook search, by looking through friends of friends, or even calling an old phone number if their parents still live in the same house!


Who are the five people you spend the most time with? Where did you meet them?



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Brittany Ann is an ECPA bestselling author and founder of Equipping Godly Women and Monetize My Ministry. She’s also a Christian speaker, podcaster, and conference host. Her work has been featured on numerous TV, radio, and online ministries, including CBN, MSN, Christianity Today, Evangelical Alliance, Patheos, Crosswalk, and more.

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Brittany Ann is an ECPA bestselling author of “Fall in Love with God’s Word” and “Follow God’s Will” and the founder of, a popular Christian-living website dedicated to helping busy Christian moms find practical ways to go "all in" in faith and family. Her work has been featured on CBN, The Christian Post, Crosswalk, and more.

  1. I am a Nigeria and presently live in Nigeria. I am 49years widow. Ever since I lost my husband, I have been so lonely. Can you connect me with a godly friend. Thank you

      1. Hello how are you I am from Florida I had a lot of really bad men in my life also focus on prayer and read your Bible and if you want to you can message me back we must focus 100 % on God because nothing is impossible for God ….

        Sometimes we as humans take on to much but God said he would fight out battles for us

    1. Hello how are you and God bless you I have lost my husband and a friend that I was about to marry and I have lost my mom and dad and all my grand parents and two of my sisters

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  3. Are any of you ladies in the Houston, TX area? I’m seeking to develop new Godly friendships with women who are in a similar place in their lives. I’m in an unequally yoked, very lonely marriage and I have two teenagers, and I work part-time, so I do have a bit of freedom and flexibility in this season of life to actually get together outside of church and Bible study. I love the women at church, but they’re all married to Godly men who are serving alongside them and they all have like 5 kids that they homeschool, so if it’s not a gathering at church, a bible study at church/small group, or a playground, they don’t seem to really have the time or interest to hang out. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE studying God’s Word, I could talk about God all day, but I’m looking to do it in real life with friends outside of the church walls.

    1. Wow, seeing these comments from Marissa and Diana really helps me see I’m not alone. I wish I lived closer to you ladies and I would totally meet you for lunch or coffee. I too attend a church, for last 8 years, and I have only one friend that I can call a friend. She is much older than me and we don’t relate very well but she is the only one that wants to get together with me. I also was in an unequally yoked marriage for 18 years, until he left me pursuing a 23 year old woman, who has since left him and went back to her husband. But the point is, there are women out there who have similar struggles and experiences so it’s nice to know I’m not alone. If you ever come back to this post and read this I hope it gives you comfort to know there are women out there like me who can relate!

  4. Looking for Christian friends in North Carolina. I attend church, but have not made any real friends.

  5. I would like to meet godly friends, in Christ Jesus.Family freinds, single men, godly sisters in Christ Jesus.Amen

  6. I am a Ugandan looking forward to having friends from the united States and who are born-again

  7. Hi everyone

    I’m Kayleah Fontenot and I’m 22 going to be 23 in October. And I attend a Baptist church but I’m the only young adult that goes to my church currently and I’m looking for a young adult community or group I can be apart of in Eustace Tx. But currently there is not one. If there is anybody that is in Texas and would like to chat and who is a young adult who needs a church home you are more than welcomed to message me so we can chat and get together if possible. My Facebook name is Kayleah Fontenot and also is my Instagram you can message me on there as well if you don’t have Facebook. Hope to hear from someone soon!

  8. Want to meet more Christian women. I’m a widow. Need to meet in person god friends. And née friends. Please help me sign up

  9. I hate to say this but , I really struggle in life sometimes I pray God to take my life but it never happens, i sometimes ask myself why does God want me to live this world because there’s nothing good happening to me , am in a situation in my life I feel like there is no tomorrow, I don’t have any goals either because I think am not gonna stay in this world for longer neither do I have motivation to do anything. I think some people have made my life to be harder , my entire life I have been bullied, people call me ugly even though sometimes I get compliments I usually don’t focus on the Positive I just remember all the mean words people have told me from the past. The thing that hurts me even more is the fact that I trusted someone I told her everything about my life and what have gone through, I could pay for anything she wanted , even sometimes she could embarrass me infront of people but I could smile so that she can’t leave me, I really don’t have friends at all, I have one friend, am for sure lonely, never been in a relationship , and it’s sad that I started talking to this guy about my past and what happened to me when I was younger he just ended up the relationship he didn’t want anything to do with me, I have tried even going to Christian app for dating but every guy I get is not interested in me , actually am not writing this for antention but it’s because am broken inside I try running to God but I end up giving up sometimes, I just need someone who will listen to my story and say it’s okay, I want someone whom we can read a Bible with someone whom will never give up on me when am having a hard time or day that’s why I came here to see if I can get friends and pray for me

    1. I am sorry to hear you are going through this. Unfortunately, I am not really qualified to really dive into this.

      But I do suggest reaching out to someone in your community around you as that can be super beneficial — whether that's a pastor, counselor, women's group, or a ministry leader. There are lots of benefits to a Christian counselor as well who can help you sort out all of those feelings. There's always hope, and I pray you find what you are looking for. <3

    2. Susan it is well the lord is with you. He will never leave not forsake you. He Loves you so much and the reason you are still here is because you have a mighty purpose in the pain. Please email me and let us connect and pray together.

      My love to you sister.

      [email protected].

      God bless and keep you.

    3. Dear Susan,
      We all go through such pain in life where we feel that aren’t we good enough? Or is there any lacking that is drawing us away from what we are seeking desperately? The answer to this question is that how we ask our Heavenly Father. Faith is the only way, a strong faith. Mathew 6:33 says that first we need to seek His kingdom then it all shall be given to us. Also, there is time and at right time we will get what have been praying for. God is with you, He has never left you alone. He loves you dearly. He has your image carved on His palm and Jesus gave His life to save you and with His blood you are bought. So buckle up my friend and fight your battles on knees.
      The devil is giving us fears and he is causing us to go in depression but remember, God hasn’t given us the spirit of fear but the spirit of joy and happiness and power. 2 thimothy 1:7. And He has given us control over all the evil spirit and we can cancel their all agendas in our prayers. Luke 10:19.

      I will lift up you in my prayers.
      Feel free to reach out for God’s word and prayers.

    4. Ask Jesus to come into your heart, tell Him you are truly sorry for your sins, forgive others of their sins- which God requires-because Jesus forgives you of your sins.

      And commit your life truly to God by surrendering your own will and plan for your life to His perfect will and plan, giving Him the control He deserves, because He made you.

      Start praying the Bible verses back to God with a true heart of seeking His face and heart to love and know Jesus intimately and personally as your first and most important true lover of your soul.

      He wants you to know He loves you, but He also wants you to love Him.

      Then, He will show you His personal presence, His will and plan for your life, and His miracle power.

      He will start to bless you.

      Start reviewing your life -confessing your sins, repenting of your sins- turning away from them-obeying the Holy Bible, and forgiving all who have sinned against you.

      Say these things to God, anyone with whom you had a sinful situation, and even your pets –

      (for example- if you were angry and took it out on your dog- tell your dog you are sorry for hurting him emotionally and physically. And tell your dog you forgive him for chewing up your couch, and that you still love him very dearly).

      Doing these things breaks the CURSES over your life that Satan had a legal right to place over your life and your soul (and even your dog's soul) from that SINFUL situation.

      When sin occurs, it brings the consequences the Bible speaks about.

      When we confess, repent, and forgive, it breaks the Devil's evil power over us.


      We must do as it says in Psalms 32:5 in the Amplified Classic Bible- CONTINUALLY UNFOLDING THE PAST UNTIL ALL IS TOLD.


      The more we sin we address, the more we get it covered under the SINLESS shed blood of Jesus to erase it from our record and set us FREE from Satan's evil power over us.

      See —( look these all up in the NLT, KJV, and AMPC)

      Matthew 6:33
      Jeremiah 29:11-13
      John 14:21
      Isaiah 55
      Psalms 107:20
      PSALMS 32:5 (AMPC)
      James 5:16
      Mark 11:25
      John chapter 3
      John chapter 16
      Matthew 3
      Proverbs 3

      Mark 16:15-20
      Luke 24:45-49

      John 14:21
      Isaiah 55
      Psalms 107:20

      He will start to show you how

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