Need More Christian Friends? Here are 6 Ways to Find Them

Need More Christian Friends? Here are 6 Ways to Find Them There’s a quote that’s been stuck, rolling around inside of my head, ever since I first heard it. 

It’s by motivational speaker Jim Rohn and it says, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

Of course, that’s what the Bible has been saying for years.

In verses like Proverbs 13:20, which states “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm” and 1 Corinthians 15:33, which states “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.'”


So let me ask you: Who are the five people you spend the most time with? And furthermore, what are they like? (seriously, take a minute. list them out.)


  • Are they strong Christians, completely devoted to following God no matter the cost? Or are they pretty lukewarm and lackadaisical in their faith, if they believe at all?
  • Do they have strong, Godly marriages and encourage you to do the same? Or are they generally disrespectful, discontent, and selfish?
  • How do they raise their children? Are they kind, loving parents who work hard to raise their children in the faith? Or do they teach and allow things that you wouldn’t want your children to be around?


Now please understand — I totally get that no one is perfect. We all have room for improvement and you definitely don’t need to go ditch all of your friends just because they aren’t “up to your standards.” You definitely need Christian friends AND non-Christian friends in your life.

BUT – just thinking of the people you spend the most time with. What are they like? And how are they influencing you to be the same?


Choosing Friends on Purpose


So, a few years ago, when I first heard this quote, I stopped to evaluate: Who were the people I spent the most time around? What did we like to do together?

Thankfully, I was pleased to find that all of my friends were pretty awesome. They are strong, smart Christian women who love God and love their families and seek to better themselves every day.

The problem for me was that I simply didn’t have enough of them. And I didn’t see them nearly often enough. So I set out to change that.


If you’re surrounded by people who constantly bring you down, I’d definitely recommend this article:

How to Deal With Toxic Family Members Biblically


Otherwise, read on for 6 ways to find more Christian friends!


6 Ways to Find More Godly Friends


1. Go Where the People Are


This first suggestion may seem obvious, but unfortunately it’s also widely overlooked: If you want to make more friends – you have to go where people are.

Sure, it may be easier and less intimidating to just stay home when you don’t know where to go or what to do, or to go to the same old places you’ve always gone, but there are SO many options you can explore!

For example, you could go to:

  • Church
  • A Bible study
  • The park
  • The library
  • A book club
  • The gym
  • A mommy and me class
  • Sports practice with your kids
  • Farmers markets
  • A full or part-time job
  • A MOPS group
  • A local coffee shop
  • A neighborhood get-together
  • An outreach event at a different church
  • Free community events in your area


One doesn’t work out? No problem. There are plenty more where that came from. Just go right on down the list until you find something that clicks.

Don’t know where to find these things in your area? Google it. Seriously. You never know what you will find until you look.


* Tried to make friends at church but your church is full of cliques? Go here: How to Make Friends When Your Church is Full of Cliques 


2. Get Involved


Of course, simply going to these places isn’t enough (unfortunately). You also have to get involved and get to know people. And the BEST way I’ve found to get involved and start getting to know people is simply to sign up or volunteer for things.

For example, you could:

  • Join a team or committee at church (ask around to see what opportunities are available)
  • Volunteer to help with special church outreach initiatives, like collecting coats, backpacks or school supplies, or by stuffing shoe boxes for Operation Christmas Child.
  • Volunteer in your child’s classroom, join the PTA, or volunteer in some other capacity at your child’s school (schools can always use volunteers!)
  • Join a group at the library or take your little ones to story time at the same time each week
  • Join a class at the gym instead of working out by yourself
  • Volunteer at the hospital or a nursing home in your area
  • Google “Volunteer opportunities + your city” (if you live in a good sized city, you should find a bunch!)


Volunteering is a great way to make a real difference in your community AND also meet some really awesome people!


3. Reach Out


Once you start to meet more people and you find a few you think would make awesome friends, it’s time to reach out and get intentional. Thankfully, this really doesn’t have to be as scary as it seems. If you’ve chosen some great people, then they’re probably super nice and would love to be friends with you.

Here’s how to make that happen:

  • Find a good reason to get their phone number or email address. For example, maybe you take some awesome pictures of your volunteer activity and you offer to forward them to your friend. Most people won’t find this weird if you’ve already started building a friendship or if you have a good reason.
  • If you aren’t brave enough to ask for a phone number, try to find them on Facebook at least. Most people have SO many friends on Facebook these days, they really won’t mind having one more. And this gives you a very laid-back way to get to know them more and chat on occasion.
  • Invite them to do something fun. Maybe there’s a new movie coming out or a new canvas painting place you’ve been dying to try. Ask if they’d like to come too. Chances are, they’d be flattered.
  • Get the kids together for a play date. Do you both have kids about the same age? Get them together for a play date and enjoy some quality mom time too.


And don’t worry if you have to invite people a couple of times before they take you up on your offer. People are busy! It may not be because they don’t want to hang out with you. They may simply not have the time or the money right then, or they may not be interested in that particular activity.

Simply try again later with a different activity. And if they still aren’t interested – no big deal. There are PLENTY of people out there. This friend simply wasn’t the right choice for you.


4. Meet Friends of Friends


Still don’t know anyone? Why not ask your current friends to help you expand your horizons? Chances are they know some people and would happy to introduce or include you. You could even arrange some kind of fun event where lots of women can bring their friends and all get to know each other.

For example:

  • A park or zoo trip
  • A toy/clothing swap
  • A book club or Bible study
  • A big freezer cooking day
  • Birthday, graduation or holiday parties
  • A Norwex, Young Living, Lularoe or Osborne books party (Anyone selling things like these would LOVE to help you throw a party because it’s a win-win. More income for them — more potential friends for you!)


5. Find Community Online


While nothing beats having real life friends you can get together with anytime, thanks to the Internet, people all over the world are more accessible than ever before. Sure, you may not be able to have them over physically, but with online video chat, it’s a pretty close second.

Plus, it’s a lot easier to find people with the same interests or struggles as you. For example, you might want to seek out other women who love essential oils, who have kids the same ages as yours, who struggle with depression, who are dealing with the loss of a child, who love running, who love baking… or anything else you can think of! The options are endless!

Here are a few places you can look:


Join the email community

And don’t forget to join the Equipping Godly Women community if you haven’t already!


6. Connect with Old Friends


Of course, while making new friends is always awesome, sometimes the answer is as simple as connecting with people you already know.

Do you have any friends from grade school, high school or college that you’ve lost touch with? What about friends from a past job, volunteer experience or interest-based group?

Oftentimes you can find people through a simple Facebook search, by looking through friends of friends, or even calling an old phone number if their parents still live in the same house!


Who are the five people you spend the most time with? Where did you meet them?



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  1. I just want to say thank you for this website and thank you to those of you who shared about having a difficult time finding friends. I am also single and don’t really have any friends to hang out with anymore. My family is critical of me because of this but I find it hard to connect with others due to past hurts. You’re honesty has made me feel a little less alone in this struggle. It seemed easier to make friends when I was younger and in school but now most of my time goes to work. Wish we all lived closer:)

  2. I am in desperate need of a friend. I feel so alone even though I am married with a 3 yr old. Doesn’t have to be near me. Just someone to communicate via text or email. I don’t have a homebased church and am tremendously shy when it comes to talking to people. If anyone is interested please let me know. Email: [email protected]

    1. Hi…Tiffany,
      My name is Diana if you would like to talk or share or just have someone listen..I am willing to try..God Bless

  3. I am a student of Software Engineering at Mbarara University of Science and Technology in Uganda. Most times, it has not been so easy for me at the university and I one time felt of leaving the University, I am in desperate need of a friend who can comfort me in all times. I feel so alone. The friend really doesn’t have to be near me. Just someone to communicate via text or email. To be sincere, I am shy. If anyone is interested please let me know. Email: [email protected]

  4. Hi. Ever since I became a true born again Christian, godly friends has become really hard to find. My husband and I are missionaries. I really really need a godly friend, a Christ centered friendship. My husband has godly friends. I have no godly friend to share issues with. Is sad. I pray the lord will find one for me.

    1. Hi Dorcas,
      My name is Diana and I have walked with God for 33 years…I too am looking for a friend…if you would like to share..please feel free to email me.
      God bless

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  6. How can I join the Facebook page. I also need a friend. My name is Olubunmi. I need some one I could talk to on my marriage & spiritual life.

  7. Hi! My name is Kimberly and I live in Frisco Texas. Single mom with two boys that are teens… looking for other Christian friends in the area. Is there anyone out there 🙂

    1. Hi Kim,
      I just so happen to come across this site (I would like to think it is God’s doing). With the pandemic and having to stay home I am looking to grow a stronger relationship with God and surround myself with Godly people which I can be an encouragement to.
      I have one teenage boy and and an 11 year old daughter. I am married to a wonderful man who knows the Lord but is not on the same spiritual level that I am.
      If you want to chat by email or anyone else for that matter I am here.
      We may not live in the same city or country (I live close to Toronto Canada) but we all elong to the same body of Christ.

      Many blessings to all those that read this.

      1. Hi Tina! I know your post is almost a year old, so I’m not sure if you’re still seeking new Christian friends or not, but I’d love to visit virtually and get to know one another if you’re still interested. My name is Marissa and I live in Houston, TX. We’re in a similar marriage situation and I have two teenagers. If you’d like to “meet”, you can email me at [email protected]. Grace and peace. 🙂

        Any other women seeking new Christian friends are welcome to reach out to me as well!

  8. Jesus Christ is Lord of my life.My faith describes who I am. I live daily to seek God’s purpose for my life.I am on here to make friends.You can send me an message on my e-mail [email protected]

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